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T O P I C R E V I E WVirgo-AriesArtistIt’s ironic and frankly,a little bit sadto hear you appreciatewhat you once hadThe things that you treasure,that matter to youwere the things you least oftenwanted to doIt took an earthquake of your home, and a tornado through your heart, for the jewels in your hand to be seen, and valued apartWhy did it take devastation,for your priorities to shift?Why did you take the necessary steps, only after the rift?And how can you look me, squarely in the eye, and tell me you miss me, forgetting the why of our goodbye...------------------Check out my poetry! <3 https://www.facebook.com/KKaneskyPoet Randall Pearlty AyeletToo sad... Virgo-AriesArtist quote:Originally posted by Ayelet:Too sad... Thanks The end of my marriage is SO hard to process, at least my ex's reaction and how he is suddenly stepping up as a dad, and missing the kids, the things he never did when we all lived in the same house...RandallWell-said.AyeletIt is never easy to let go of a good thing. mirage29Sorry for your loss of this relationship. When I had to divorce my ex1, for MONTHS beforehand, I "begged" him to think hard and "imagine" what it would BE like AFTER the fact. That we could work to fix-things NOW, and avert the horrible pain that occurs afterwards. I was sooooo willing! We even went for marriage counseling--- but after two meetings, the counselors told me that my husband lacked the ability to 'put himself in someone else's perspective'. He wouldn't be able to 'project' himself INTO the future, and FEEL it, and decide if 'that' was what HE still wanted?*crickets* I found out a number of years later, that he wasn't a good person. It was actually for "his daughters' protection" that it was good he left. {I had forgotten about that!! I tend to remember the good-- then forget the 'why', as you said.}The breaking of a marriage is bad.Sometimes, staying in a wrong (and harmful) situation, would be worse. {I forgot that.} Takes a lot of TLC to KEEP a marriage.Takes even more when it ends.{{ }} May you find Healing.
The things that you treasure,that matter to youwere the things you least oftenwanted to do
It took an earthquake of your home, and a tornado through your heart, for the jewels in your hand to be seen, and valued apart
Why did it take devastation,for your priorities to shift?Why did you take the necessary steps, only after the rift?
And how can you look me, squarely in the eye, and tell me you miss me, forgetting the why of our goodbye...
------------------Check out my poetry! <3
https://www.facebook.com/KKaneskyPoet
quote:Originally posted by Ayelet:Too sad...
Thanks The end of my marriage is SO hard to process, at least my ex's reaction and how he is suddenly stepping up as a dad, and missing the kids, the things he never did when we all lived in the same house...
When I had to divorce my ex1, for MONTHS beforehand, I "begged" him to think hard and "imagine" what it would BE like AFTER the fact. That we could work to fix-things NOW, and avert the horrible pain that occurs afterwards. I was sooooo willing!
We even went for marriage counseling--- but after two meetings, the counselors told me that my husband lacked the ability to 'put himself in someone else's perspective'. He wouldn't be able to 'project' himself INTO the future, and FEEL it, and decide if 'that' was what HE still wanted?
*crickets* I found out a number of years later, that he wasn't a good person. It was actually for "his daughters' protection" that it was good he left. {I had forgotten about that!! I tend to remember the good-- then forget the 'why', as you said.}The breaking of a marriage is bad.Sometimes, staying in a wrong (and harmful) situation, would be worse. {I forgot that.}
Takes a lot of TLC to KEEP a marriage.Takes even more when it ends.
{{ }} May you find Healing.
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